I Thee Wed

July 4th, 2008 Posted in Life As A Nico, Musicianship

My friends are getting married all over the place.  For this weekend, I’m making a trip up to the Bay Area to celebrate the union of two college friends.

You’d think that this would be a post about how being single makes me think I’d really like to get married but that’s just really not in the cards for a long time.  Or at least until I can get to where I want to be in my career.

Or, perhaps, this post would be about what I think about my friends getting married.  Nope, not doing that either.  After all, I’m not married.

But wait, maybe I am already married.  To the interwebs?  Or maybe to my guitars.

Well, the net is my career, so I’m probably married to my guitars.  It is, after all, my guitars that I love. It’s too bad that I can’t think of anybody I’ve dated that I loved more than the feeling of pressing strings onto frets.  And I’ve fallen in love before - hard, and once for a long time - and still, the guitar wins.

I remember practicing guitar in my college dorm room and falling asleep with it still in my hands.

I remember naming my acoustic guitar Lillian, after my paternal grandmother, who reminded me of purple orchids and Mu’umu’u sun dresses and afternoon naps.

I remember naming my electric (a black Stratocaster) Estelita, after my maternal grandmother, who reminded me of ballroom dancing and putting on a show, swearing with zeal and vitriol, laughing hard at a good joke.

I named my Telecaster Pandora, knowing full well that it was the indication of a musicianship which would definitely compete with the rest of my life at the time, taking me many places and putting me in interesting situations.  In both, equal servings of good and bad.  Serves me right, seeing as how that guitar was stolen before it made its way to me, and I’m still unclear on the details of how that happened.

Then there’s being on stage.  Lord, how I miss being on stage.

Perhaps my priorities are out of line.  I mean come on, how does one fall in love with inanimate objects?

Maybe I should put it this way: How many of you have fallen in love with learning another language and the culture that came with it?  How about letting your guard down, and dancing your ass off under dazzling lights to the thump of a darkened dance floor?  The wind in your hair on the open road?  Getting runner’s high in the pouring rain, when the air starts to smell like the taste of sugar?  Getting dangerously close to that delightful nausea on the spinny cups at Disneyland?

Yeah.  It’s a lot like that.

So I guess this turned into a post about guitars.  Huh.  Interesting.

So tomorrow I will be around a newly married couple.  Being around people who are in love remind me that I am in love.  My heartstrings stretch over frets.

Maybe I should play a show soon and I won’t pine over this so much.

Yeah.  That’s a good idea.

  1. 11 Responses to “I Thee Wed”


  2. Eric was like:

    I don’t think I’m that attached to anything, animate or inanimate. I suppose I could marry my leather jacket. Or one of my books.

    Jul 4, 2008

  3. verybadcat was like:

    WH loves his fishing rods the way you love your guitars, and his passion just makes him more attractive, even when I’m competing with the fishing rods for attention.

    I could marry plants. Sowing seeds, taking cuttings, nurturing the little buggers into producing flowers, fruit, or more pretty green foliage. Cooking is too new, I can’t tell if the longevity is there. Plants, though, have been an constant for quite some time now. :)

    Jul 4, 2008

  4. Tin Ma'am was like:

    You know, maybe I’m married to blogging? i certainly spend enough time doing it.

    Jul 4, 2008

  5. apricot. was like:

    My father is a jazz guitarist; has played for most of his life (he’s almost 50). He’s got a dozen different guitars & loves them all as though they are mistresses of different shapes & sizes. He used to be IN love with them, like how you speak, but I think something happened along the way where he just… stopped. I don’t know why; but it’s really sad, to me.

    Jul 4, 2008

  6. Cess was like:

    I keep saying dance is my only requited love. But getting immersed in any rhythm, be it something I’m trying to drum out via tap shoes or just flow along to silently, always feels like I’m being revisited by the oldest love of my life and a dear friend.
    Even if the headless passion of my teenage years (that would have had me wed this art) has faded, the dance has promised to never leave me, and keeps revisiting me in new forms at all times of life to make sure I’m OK. And after each encounter with dancing, I am OK.
    The best thing of all is that it keeps introducing me to new friends. Salsa today. :)

    Jul 5, 2008

  7. Maxie was like:

    I am so married to the Internet too.

    and my paternal gmas name is Lillian too!

    Jul 5, 2008

  8. Jenn was like:

    I think I’m married to the interwebs.

    Jul 7, 2008

  9. katelin was like:

    i think i’m married to the internet as well. just don’t tell matt :)

    Jul 7, 2008

  10. nikki was like:

    why is everyone getting married? i was just in a wedding. must be in the water. i think your idea of loving your guitars is better than being married right now.

    ps “My heartstrings stretch over frets” this is either a band name or a song title just begging to be written. killer.

    Jul 7, 2008

  11. Nico was like:

    @Eric: it is possible to be married to literature - i was in college, after all.

    @verybadcat: WH sounds fun to hang out with - and props on gardening. plants always make a place breathe easier, i’ve found. it’s hard to keep things alive and watered where i am.

    @Tin Ma’am: to each their own!

    @apricot.: perhaps it was supporting a family? either way, try to encourage your dad to get back into it. jazz is like the knighthood of musicianship.

    @Cess: and a 1, 2, 3, 4…

    @Maxie: internet makes a good lover, i gotta say. also, isn’t Lillian a pretty name?

    @Jenn: intarweb <3 u!

    @katelin: mum is the word! :)

    @nikki: for real, right? as far as the song goes - i’m on it!

    Jul 8, 2008

  12. courtney was like:

    my love is a piano i had to leave in montana when we moved three years ago. it’s still mine, but lives at my grandma’s house, and so i only see it when i go to visit about once a year.

    i’m trying to replace it with boys. it’s not working so well. i’d stick with the guitars if i were you:)

    Jul 8, 2008

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